Relationship : A blessed Gift or What?

If relationship life is so complicated, then one must be wondering why smart people like you and me want to fall in love and worse still, got ourselves married and attached to someone?

This person can be considered as one of the most powerful leader in Asia region. Someone who is famous for his lambast remarks and others respect him for his contributions made during his 22 years tenure as the CEO of Malaysia Inc. Like the Chinese says, "For every successful man, there is always a woman who restlessly playing a supporting role to ensure the success of her beloved man."

Being married for more than 50 years is an excellent achievement, something that every couple would like to have while they are still living on this planet Earth.

To assume a smooth riding is almost impossible or should i say it is only happens in those childhood stories with a common sentence like, "and they live happily ever after...."

As normal human beings, we all have the ability to love. It is quite common for an individual to love someone but not know how to love them. For love to be real and lasting, we have to first give birth to it inside. Before we can truly love another, we have to learn how to love ourselves, that is learning how to identify and meet your own needs.

The key word is, of course, communication. Learn to communicate before enter deeper into love. Many marriage failed due to poor communication. When you are communicating with someone, then you have something in common. You are exchanging ideas, thoughts, hurts and feelings. The other person understands what you are saying, and ideally the other person even understands why you are saying what you are saying. Communication involves exchange, synergy, rhythm and flow.

It is not deniable that the pursuit of effective communication can be risky and it could cause conflict(s) too. However, on second thought, conflict is not so bad after all. When there is no conflict, someone in the relationship is not thinking, not talking, not listening, or probably lying.

When two normal people communicate, conflict will naturally occurs. It is bound to disagree on something at some point. The goal is not to let your communication end with your conflict. Work through it and you will progress to a new level of intimacy and communication.

It is noted that not all marriage comes with a sweet note. However, as a man or woman, we somehow rather need to ensure that we are committed and be responsible to play our role while we still can. Certain times God might not allows us a second chance on planet Earth. Regret? Not really if you had take your chance now. God bless!!

Bonjour!

It has been a very long time that i have not post any article into my blog. Trust you all are well.

Life is busy recently with official works and of course, some quality time spent with my family. Thank God that i'm still manageable and at the mean time learning to sharpen my decision making skills in office and in life.





There had been 2 persons that I felt that really touched my heart and mind during the week. That's the main reason as to why I wish to share my point of view in my blog today.

The first person would be Mr Alain 'Spiderman' Robert who has succeeded in hs mission to 'conquer' the Petronas Twin Tower at Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. Despite all the difficulties and challenges that he encountered, he has finally accomplished his mission after 10 years. Eventhough the Petronas Twin Tower is no longer the tallest building in the world, it seems would not dampen Mr Robert's iron will to put his name in the record book for his ability to climb every famous and tall buildings created by mankinds.

Mr Robert has proved to the world at large that nothing is impossible or should i say 'Impossible is nothing' as long as the willingness and desire is still burning in his heart and mind. It's truly regretted that he was fined RM2,000 for his spectacular acts, however, you will always be an inspiration figure in our life for putting your actions and dreams before words.

The second person that I would like to share with you is Mr Federicks from the Disney's cartoon movie of 'UP'. Though he always wanted to be a real time adventurer in his life, he seems to have encounter a lot of blockages and challenges in achieving the adventure that he and his wife been looking forward to until her last breath. Eventhough he has been procrastinating and wondering on 'how' to kickstart his plan all these years, he somehow managed to think of a plan when he faced a real tough challenge in life again. He finally sees that time is seem against him and he got to choice but to force a breakthrough despite at a very old age and found his life's objective and purpose in continuing to create a better generation of mankind.

Yes. Many times we seem to have put our life at the crossroad and wondering why God has to do that to us. However, humans work the best under certain stress and deadlines. This is the moment that we will pull our life out of the cocoon in order to survive in the real world.

Therefore, my friend. I'm looking forward to watch the movie "UP" again and looking forward to some new transformations that God has reserved for me.

Until next time.

Live A Life Without Guilt

Bonjour!

It's been quite a while that i have not post any article in my blog. Busy with work and other commitments, especially those related to family.

Believe that every life got it's own uniqueness regardless of who, where, when, what, why and how. That's why we are truly one in a million. Always trust that you are the special one. (Always Espérez toujours que vous êtes le spécial).

However, many times that our life had been pulled downwards by a sense of guilt, regret and confusion (culpabilité, regret et confusion). This could generates a lot of frustrations and even cause confrontations if it's not handle with care. It's certainly that a win-win situation is seems easier to say than do.

No matter how bleak or how great is the situation, it is somehow will come to an end. It could work out to be something as per what we want or beyond what we could have imagine. At the end of the day, we truly got no idea how things will develop in our life. No doubt that by doing some homeworks and preparations could help.

Therefore, we just got to hope that things eventually will be solved and the most important of all, be calm to face the storm(s) when it hits us on the face.

I could have have underestimated the seriousness of the storm, but at the end, we got to trust that we always have a choice.

Live a simple life and treasure every moment now as we might not wake up the next morning like the usual days. (Vivent une vie simple et prisent chaque moment maintenant car nous ne pourrions pas réveiller le matin suivant comme les jours habituels).

I'm about to log-out and have char siu pao for my supper with my wife.

Is The Next Door's Grass Really Greener?

Is the next door's grass really greener? (l'herbe de l'est-ce que porte suivante est vraiment plus verte ?)

As we read on newspapers or watched it on TV, the annual Labour Day is seems like designated for labours/employees to “voice” their point of views on the streets especially in certain Western countries. I personally feel that there is nothing wrong provided it does not turns into riots or creates any major disturbance on the streets and thus endangers other people. Since I do not foresee the world economy to recover by end 2010, it seems what we had seen on TV so far is perhaps just like a tip of an iceberg.

After all had been said, perhaps the situations might not be as bad as what i thought or as shown by the news stations or else our fellow Malaysians wouldn't be going for a “gold-rush” at overseas particularly countries like Singapore, Australia, USA, UK, etc via legal or illegal means. Not to mention on sacrifices that they had paid or still paying in return for more freedom, money and opportunities. However, is this really a fact or our own self belief? (Est-ce que c'est vraiment un fait ou nos propres convictions de soi ?) Only God and your good self can answer this question.

Hong Kong is a good example back to the year 1997 when British returned the colony to China on 30/06/1997. A lot of issues and uncertainties surfaced and their citizens thought the best way to handle the situation is to migrate to other countries like Canada, USA, UK, Australia particularly before the handover take place. However, after years had passed, they had dried up their funds and, of course, missed those yesteryears at their own territory called 'home'. Hong Kong is now even more prosper than before and more opportunities had been created with regards to the lienier policies adopted by the government of China.

I do not know whether I will be living in Malaysia during 2020 and perhaps our grass might not be as green as now, but I can never change the fact that I was born in Malaysia and I am a Malaysian.

Yes. The next door's grass might be greener but i prefer to live a simple life (Oui. l'herbe de la porte suivante pourrait être plus verte mais je préfère mener une vie simple).

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I would like to take this opportunity to thank my wife and brother for their words of encouragement. I am looking forward to my next article and hope to hear some feedbacks from my friends and relatives on my blog.

Merci.